Are you who you really want to be? Or are you what they want you to be?

Are you who you really want to be? Or are you what they want you to be?

Society a part of a community that is a unit distinguishable by particular aims or standards of living or conduct:  a social circle or a group of social circles having a clearly marked identity.

What you just read is a definition by a world dictionary that writes definitions according to how we society define or represent a word. That definition is clearly and incredibly acceptable to anyone who doesn’t pay attention to what is basically happening around them. It clearly states how humans, have a society kind of group to follow or to get used to. The definition does not mention or states the word a self define person, or an individual who depends on his or her own beliefs, instead it says a group of people meaning one follows the other and they all try to act the same.

In the U.S we live in a type of society that is very diverse however, we all try to fit in what the dominant groups call the American culture. Humans can be very smart but when it comes to make choices on our own, we become very vulnerable. Sociology is the study of structure and the development of human society and the interactions within it. Sociologist clearly states that humans are influenced by what is around them, consciously or unconsciously.

All of us interact with society on a daily basis, at work, school, parties, everywhere even at the house with our own families and technology. My point with this is that everything we do is influenced by society, up to the point where we don’t act according to what we want or need, but according to what is presented to us and what is around us. Now a days we are not who we really want to be, we are not who we really are, we basically are and act according to society. At the same time is a trend which means since we are part of a society we make others be part of it too, and we pull each other into it. I believe there are three factors that influence in this issue.

Thinking is a dominant factor of this issue. We as humans don’t actually think by ourselves. We might physically think alone, however our thoughts are influenced by society and they also become constructed by society. If I were to involved some biological science in here, I understand that we are able to think by the genes that are inherited from our parents which means thoughts and ideas come through them too, and their thoughts come from other genes but also from what they have gather from society.

Another dominant factor of the issue is physical actions, how we move, how we walk, how we run, how we use tools are all physical actions that are influence by society we learn all of this as we are growing up by looking at others not only at our homes but also outside of it.  An example is when we start working at some place we are train on how to do things, they influence our way of physically acting. Now a day’s even the way teenagers dance is influence by society and it spreads out by media, for example the tweaking dance, the Shmoney dance, everyone is trying to dance like that and we forget who we really are, and even we don’t realize if we even like it or no.  

Last factor is unconscious actions. Society has a lot to do with this. Our emotions and unconscious actions are determined by our interactions with others. For example, the way we sleep, how, when and where. The norm of sleeping is all determine by society by some unconscious actions we know we have to sleep at night that is what is normal. We wake up and we know we have to be aware during the day, it is impossible to change this because your body and your brains knows what to do already without thinking it twice or doubting about it. If we try doing the opposite it won’t work because society is so big and you unconsciously would just give up.

In addition, society has manipulated us to a point where we are unable to change some of the things in our lives. And it keeps working on us that way. The way we dress, the way we act, the way we think, the way we unconsciously act, the way we eat, the fact that we know when to do things like sleep, shower, the fact that we know we have to dress certain ways depending of the occasion and even the fact that we have to fit in certain groups in side society. All of this is what drives our daily lives. I believe we need to change this, am not saying some of the things are bad, no indeed some of them organize our lives, however others don’t and we need to be more aware of that by paying attention to our actions and double thinking on yourself and not others. Just stop for a minute after you read this and ask yourself some questions

Are you who you really want to be? Would you like to change some things? And if yes, what would happen if you do so? Please be realistic and honest.